Free Behaviour Pattern Tracker for Parents

Spot the Pattern Behind Your Child’s Behaviour

Get the free Behaviour Pattern Tracker

When a behaviour keeps happening, it can be difficult to know what is triggering it, what your child may be trying to achieve, or why some responses seem to make things bette r- or worse.

The free Behaviour Pattern Tracker helps you slow the situation down and record what happens:

just before the behaviour
during the behaviour
immediately afterwards
when the behaviour is more or less likely to happen

Over 5 days, this can help you notice patterns that are easy to miss in the moment.

What the tracker can help you understand

Use the tracker to explore questions such as:

Does the behaviour happen more often during particular routines?
Are there common triggers or warning signs?
What usually changes after the behaviour happens?
Are certain responses unintentionally keeping the pattern going?
When does your child cope more successfully?

The aim is not to blame you or your child. It is to help you understand the situation more clearly, so your next steps can become more thoughtful and less reactive.

What you’ll receive

Enter your details below and I’ll send you:

the Behaviour Pattern Tracker
simple instructions for completing it
guidance to help you interpret what you record
occasional evidence-informed emails about understanding and responding to behaviour

Free Behaviour Pattern Starter Pack™

If your child’s behaviour feels intense, repetitive, or hard to understand, it can be difficult to know what to focus on first.

This free pack helps you:

focus on one main behaviour first
track what happens before and after
spot triggers and repeated patterns
feel clearer about your next step

Best for parents trying to understand a repeatable behaviour pattern at home.

By signing up, you’ll receive the Behaviour Pattern Starter Pack plus a small number of helpful follow-up emails related to behaviour patterns and BPMS™. You can unsubscribe at any time. See the Privacy Policy and Terms.

Start with one behaviour

Choose one behaviour that is currently difficult for your family.

For example:

hitting or kicking
screaming
refusing everyday requests
running off
breaking things
difficulties around bedtime
conflict between siblings

You do not need to track everything. Focusing on one clear behaviour usually makes the pattern easier to see.

What happens after you sign up?

The tracker will be sent to the email address you provide.

You can then use it for several days to record what is happening around the behaviour. You will also receive guidance to help you think through the patterns you notice.

For some families, the tracker is enough to provide useful clarity. Others may decide they would benefit from more structured professional support.

Need help making sense of the pattern?

The Behaviour Pattern Mapping System™ is a structured, parent-facing assessment and coaching pathway.

It is designed to help families move beyond general advice by looking carefully at:

what is happening before the behaviour
what the behaviour may be helping the child access, avoid or communicate
how current responses may be influencing the pattern
which practical changes and replacement skills are most likely to help

There is no pressure to continue beyond the free tracker. Information about BPMS is available if you decide you need more support.

About Sim

I’m Sim Shamu. I hold a master’s degree in Applied Behaviour Analysis, a Level 5 qualification in Positive Behaviour Support, and I am a practising registrant of the UK Society for Behaviour Analysis.

My approach is behaviour-first, non-diagnostic and focused on understanding the context around behaviour without blaming children or parents.

Privacy and important information

Your details will be used to send you the tracker and relevant follow-up emails. You can unsubscribe at any time.

Please do not submit confidential information, detailed case histories or identifying information about your child through this form.

The tracker is an educational resource. It is not a diagnosis, crisis service, safeguarding assessment or substitute for individual medical or clinical advice.

If there is an immediate risk of serious harm, contact the appropriate emergency or local safeguarding service.